One plus one: important rules for single moms
Mom and child are the family reality of ourtime. It is not so important, it has become an accident, an inevitability or an informed choice. Much more important is the answer to the question - how can a woman cope with the upbringing of a baby? Children's psychologists assure - it is quite possible for the mother, it is only necessary to prioritize and find a balance between the mind and the heart.
Do not try to replace your father's child. The fear that the kid is deprived of "fatherly love" pushes women to extremes: they then try to copy conditional male behavior, then they desperately seek a "new" dad, they tend to compensate for his lack of hyper-care and gifts. If you do this, stop: love has no sex. You can give the child enough caress and care so that he grows up to be a happy and confident person. Just stay yourself and love it.
Determine the level of confidence. Extremes "mother-friend" and "mother-tyrant" are equally destructive. You are the main person in the life of your baby, his friend and mentor, a landmark in a complex world. Learn to look at yourself through the eyes of the child - do you like what you see, are you proud? This technique will help in the search for an optimal line of conduct.
Do not forget about personal boundaries. They are necessary not only for you, but for your baby. Develop, grow in a professional and personal plan, make interesting acquaintances and hobbies - after all, you are the model for a child. Show him how to treat the world, people, cherished dreams, secret fears and expectations - by example.
