Baby tantrums: how to calm the child?
Children's hysteria - a phenomenon that, unfortunately, is too early orlate all parents face. When the child falls into hysterics, parents are lost, do not know what to do, how to quickly stop this nightmare. And if the hysterics happens in a public place, the poor parents simply do not know where to go with shame and are happy to fall through the ground right on the spot. Hysteria, when it has already begun, can not be stopped. Therefore, parents should, first of all, learn to avoid hysterics. But if this trouble does happen, then the child needs to be reassured. That's just how to do it?
Children's hysteria - this is a strong emotional surge, an attack,reinforced, as a rule, by negative emotions: irritation, anger, despair, aggression. Children's tantrums are accompanied by a loud cry, crying, the child arches back (hysterical bridge). In a state of hysterics, the child has little control over his motor skills, he can beat his head against the wall or on the floor and at the same time feel almost no pain.
What causes child hysteria? A push to the beginning of hysteria for the child canserve the usual parental "no." This is a strong emotional stimulus for the child. In general, the actual attack of hysterics does not last long. More often than not, the child consciously continues to cry and cry, to get from his parents.
Hysterics can be experienced by all young children, but are particularly they are children with a weak nervous system,neurological disorders. Hysterics can pass without a trace, and can end with vomiting or shortness of breath, sudden lethargy and fatigue of the child. If your baby has such symptoms with hysterics - this is an occasion to consult a neurologist for advice.
One of the most important conditions for children's hysteria is the presence of spectators. The more people pay attention tothe sooner the child can achieve what he wants. On how parents react to hysterics, it depends on whether the child will continue to resort to this method.
Most often, hysterics occur in children aged one to five years. After five years of hysterics children almost do not roll; well aware that the hysteria will be followed by punishment.
The best way to combat childhood hysterics - prevention. If you are going to go for a walk or forpurchases, the child should be asleep, full, he should be comfortable, not cold and not hot. Any discomfort can be a reason for hysterics. In addition, with the help of hysterics, children often try to attract the attention of their parents. The child can start hysterics in response to constant deterrence, negative emotions of the parents, to parent quarrels.
The impetus for the beginning of hysteria is usually a caprice - "buy, give, do not want, I will not ...". You can try to prevent hysteria,using "distracting maneuvers." "Look, the bird flew" - it's as old as the world, but it works almost without trouble for young children. Switch the attention of the child can also be some kind of game, watching.
When the hysteria has already begun, Do not try to calm the child - it will not help. The more you bustle around him - the longer the "concert" will be. The surest means in this case - do not pay attention to hysterics and not succumb to. Yes, calmly stand and watch your babyliterally torn, hard, but necessary. You can move a short distance (but so that you stay in sight of the child) and defiantly turn away. If hysterics occurred in a public place, do not pay attention to the condemnatory or sympathetic views of outsiders. If you indulge the child's whims just to avoid a scandal in sight at all, get ready - you will have to do it all the time.
If the reason for hysteria was your refusal to buy a toy or your requirement to go to bed, then in no event you can not immediately retreat from their requirements. Do not try during hysteria take the child by force or lift it from the floor. Let her take off and roll her fists, but she will understand that she will not achieve anything in this way.
Do not punish the child for hysterics, especially whenall. When the baby calms down, you can calmly discuss with him, which caused his frustration. Explain to the kid that you still love him and you do not like him, but his behavior. The child must learn to understand that his feelings and desires can and should be expressed in a civilized way.
To forever stop hysterics, it is important to maintain a policy of intolerance towardshysterics. This means not meeting the requirements of a small blackmailer at home, in a shop, in a kindergarten or on a playground. If necessary, arrange with the rest of the family, nanny or kindergarten teacher, so that they behave like yours in the hysteria of your child. When a child realizes that his hysterics do not affect anyone, he will stop using them.
