What if the child is fighting?

The younger the child, the less consciously he refers to the fight. He does not understand yet what can hurtto another. At first, the child simply tries to hit someone as an experiment to test the reaction. If the reaction to the blows is always the same, then it is enough several times that the child understands that such behavior is unacceptable. And when the mother takes offense at the blow, the grandmother becomes touched and laughs, and the children in the yard give change, the child can not understand what kind of reaction is right. And repeats his experiment again and again.

If a child beats his parents, then show him that it is unacceptable for parents to only respond appropriately. Screaming or crying is almost useless. After all, this kind of reaction is what the little fighter wants to provoke. Therefore, if the child has hit his mother, then she should firmly and calmly turn away from the child, take the child to another room or go away by herself, all the way by showing the child that the mother is offended. If at the same time there is another member of the family at home, then he must approach the "offended" mother and feel sorry for her, patting, completely ignoring the child. When a kid does not get a show and attention to himself, he will start to think.

The child fights with other children in the kindergarten or at the school, on the playground. He is complaining about other parents and teachers. Most often, this situation does not happen in front of parents, and To find out who is right and who is to blame is not so easy.

To begin with, it is important to understand that a fight also happensdifferent. It's one thing if a child bullys peers and quite another - if he thus protects himself or his friend, their toys. Teaching a child to defend one's interests is very important, but at the same time should explain to him that a fight is a very extreme method, and it should be avoided whenever possible.

We need to talk with one of the "witnesses" of the fight: teacher, educator. Only do this not in the presence of the child, but later he himself will outline his version of events, and this version may be very different from what the situation is seen by adults. If a child can reasonably and clearly tell about the cause of the fight, then most likely he is right. But if he tries to evade the conversation, keep silent, something to come up with on the move - he probably feels wrong himself, or simply does not give the fight much importance.

If fights are rare and happen very rarely, thenthey should not cause the parents to be very anxious, and if this develops into a constant habit of swinging their fists, then it is necessary to act more resolutely. If the child sees other children as his enemies, then it is necessary to try together with the kid to find in peers not only bad, but also good qualities. You can also enroll the child in the sports section, where he will give a way out of his energy, for example, on a punching bag.

If the fight occurred in front of the child's parents, then a lot depends on their reaction. If the parent immediately rushes to defend hisa child who does not understand who is right and wrong, it will strengthen the child's belief that he is special, he is better than others and can quite do as he pleases. And if, on the contrary, parents will shame and curse the baby, this can help only for a short time. Another time the child will not fight with the parents, but as soon as they depart, they will take up the old one.

therefore the best line of behavior of parents is not to interfere in the situation, while it is not dangerous for children's health. If children want to use sticks or stones,then these dangerous items should be silently taken away, and the "debriefing" should be postponed until coming home. For a child, a remark from an outsider, for example, the parent of one of the children on the playground or in the kindergarten, may be effective. In this case, do not need to protect the child too much when he rushes "under the wing". It's important to tell him something in the spirit: "You see, other uncles and aunts also think that it's bad to fight. So they do not want you to play here. Next time they will not let us in here. You do not want this? ". If the child is wrong, then ask him to apologize to his "victim" and make up. If the child refuses, the walk ends.

Teach a child not to fight and solve his disputes peacefully is very difficult, but very real. Patience and strong nerves to all parents!