Free relations: for and against

The essence and principles of free relations

Roughly speaking, an open relationship is relationships in which each partner has a "right to left". Man and woman communicate, spend togethertime, make love, all as in ordinary relationships. But each of them, if desired, can have sex on the side, without hiding it from the partner and knowing that he will not face jealousy, demands and claims.

It is important to emphasize that in free relations a man and a woman enter by mutual agreement. Sometimes it happens that one of the partners(more often a man) blackmails another: either we will be together on such terms, or we will not be together at all. If one of the partners agreed to this kind of relationship simply out of fear of remaining alone, it is possible to call such relations free with a big stretch.

What is the basis of an open relationship? First, it is important to remember that The partner for you should still remain in the first place. You can both sleep with other people, but the desires and needs of a partner are your priority, and it's not just about the bed.

Secondly, you must be willing to share. Entering into an open relationship, many forget,that freedom extends to both partners, and when they actually face the fact that their partner has slept with someone, they become jealous, and jealousy in free relationships is not the place.

Thirdly, mutual respect and harmony are important. Remember, sex on the side is right, notduty. The goal of free relations is not at all to sleep with as many people as possible. Even in an open relationship, couples can be faithful to each other for months and years. Also, as already mentioned, both partners must agree to an open relationship and are ready for them: no blackmail and concessions.

Advantages of free relations

Free relations are not burdensome - in fact, in such a relationship, no one owes anything to anyone, they can be stopped painlessly at any time, and you can not stop for years if you are satisfied with everything.

Such relations free from templates. We are used to traditionally relationsdevelop according to the standard pattern: they met - came together - got married (or got married - came together) - had children. Free relations eliminate the need to follow this plan, so if you do not plan to start a family and children in the near future, this option may suit you.

This type of relationship is often preferred people who have recently survived the gap and are not yet ready for a serious relationship. On the one hand, there is a person next to whom you have emotional and physical intimacy, on the other - you are not so attached to it that the gap again hurts you.

Sometimes relationships of this kind even help to save a marriage by presenting spouses with novelty of sensations. Some couples agree that physical treason is more harmless than divorce due to the fact that the relationship has become a routine, becoming boring and monotonous.

Disadvantages of free relations

Entering into an open relationship, many are faced with a misunderstanding and disapproval from others, because many consider such relations immoral. And if the opinion of outsiders should not worry you, then it will not be easy to dismiss relatives or friends.

Also there is no no guarantee that one day "just sex" of one of the partners on the side will not result in something more. Not everyone is able to share love and sex infree relationships, forgetting that you can sleep with different people, but love and attention should go to one single partner (remember the priorities?).

Sooner or later one of the partners may have a desire to have a family, children. And if you legitimize relations quite realistically(there is such a form of marriage as open marriage), then with children it can be more difficult, especially when they grow up, and parents will have to hide from them the characteristics of their personal lives.

Yet many confuse freedom and lack of responsibility. If one or both partners are presentthis delusion, such a relationship will not last long. In a free relationship, you are still responsible for each other, just giving each other more freedom.

So, free relationships have both their pluses and minuses. Only you yourself can decide whether this type of relationship suits you. The main thing is to remember that in free relations they enter by mutual agreement, having weighed all the pros and cons. You do not need to settle for such a relationship just to be close to the person you love, if the very idea of ​​free relations offends you.