How to maintain a relationship with your beloved?

The responsibility for maintaining the relationship always lies with both partners. So if you have a relationshipproblems, you do not need to think that everything will be formed by itself or that the girl will decide everything for you. Many men find it unworthy to ask forgiveness from a woman. If you want to maintain a relationship with a loved one, forget about it: in a relationship, make both concessions, and not someone else.

If you start having problems in a relationship, the first thing you need to find out is where do they "grow their feet." The simplest and most effective way to do this is to ask directly. Many couples broke up because the girl tried to show her displeasure with vague hints, which the man simply did not understand, but did not dare to ask directly or did not guess.

A very important role in maintaining relations is played by the ability to talk about problems. Laying out the problem on the shelves is the firststep to its solution. How many relationships collapsed because of trivialities. For example, you forget to turn a tube with toothpaste day after day. Your girlfriend is annoying, but she does not talk about it. Irritation gradually accumulates and pours out into a scandal. And if she immediately told you about this unfortunate tube, the scandal would have been avoided.

Of course, the example with the tube is exaggerated, but the meaning, we think, is understandable. However, the ability to talk about problems will not give anything without the other ability - the ability to listen. It's not enough to tell a partner that you are notarranges, - it is necessary that he listened, understood and took note. Otherwise, conversations are reduced to a mutual exchange of reproaches, but all this will continue in the old way.

When solving problems, one must be able to negotiate and compromise. Do not try to "reshape" the partner forourselves - we are all different, each of us has its own advantages and disadvantages. But do not dutifully put up with the shortcomings. If something does not suit you, say this (only gently and tactfully), do not put off problems in the long box - the more they accumulate, the greater the likelihood of an "explosion" that will put an end to your relationship.

But that's not all. To maintain a relationship with a loved one, you need to be able to forgive. Of course, if a loved one has committeda serious misconduct, you may not be able to forgive him - but then you can hardly talk about maintaining relations. And in many cases it's better to forgive and give a second chance. No one is immune to mistakes: maybe someday you will stumble, and you already have to hope for forgiveness.

Sometimes in a relationship there comes a difficult period, because it seems to the girl that you do not like her. The problem is not in you or in the girl - the problem in the differences between men and women. Women are more emotional in the manifestations of feelings and expect the same from men. And men are not accustomed to express their love vigorously (except in the initial period of relations).

How to maintain a relationship with your loved one in this case? Try to be more open in expressing your feelings and emotions. It is very important for women to feel loved. You can say: "But she knows that I love her!". But "knowing" and "feeling" are two different things. And, by the way, expensive gifts will not always be the best expression of feelings. Sometimes a lilac branch stolen in a strange garden can say much more about your feelings than a diamond ring.

And remember: you are unlikely to be able to maintain a relationship with your loved one if you are deceiving her, even if you have convinced yourself that this is a lie for good. The guarantee of good relations is honesty and trust. Do not forget that the success of relationships dependsfrom two. If you learn to talk to each other about your problems and solve them together, then you will necessarily get not only to maintain your relations, but also to bring them to a new level.