Inferiority complex

The inferiority complex was first described by the Austrian psychoanalyst Alfred Adler. According to him, all people who suffer from an inferiority complex, consider themselves as something small, insignificant. But the whole truth is that everyone in thesomehow feels inadequate. Perhaps you have something that does not work out like the others. Or you do not have the same success with the opposite sex as your friend or girlfriend. Due to the fact that many do not pay attention to such small complexes, they do not feel deprived of anything.

But there are always people who see themselves as insignificant personalities. And to feel like this, do not even have to be disabled or get sick with an incurable disease. An absolutely healthy person can underestimate himself. The person perceives all his mistakes and failuresvery seriously, while comparing themselves with more successful people and getting as a result not good health and mood, but long-term depression. In the most severe cases, an inferiority complex can lead to suicide.

Very often, people with an inferiority complex manifest themselves certain signals indicating the current state of the person. A person can try to draw upon himselfthe attention of other people, while he will use all available to him ways. Also on the complex can indicate and such signals: people's fear, fear of making a mistake, tension, lack of contacts. Very often even the cause of speech defects in a person can also be his sense of inferiority.

Often meets inferiority complex in men. A man, as a protector and breadwinner of the family, does notcan realize himself fully, since his internal obstacles prevent him. So it turns out that a man feels nothing and no one: he has no status, a beloved woman, good work, etc. Hence the excessive use of alcohol, increased aggressiveness.

The worst thing is that sense of inferiority is laid by our parents. The way parents treat a child, in many respectspredetermines its future. A child who was praised, encouraged and helped in every possible way, in adolescence will not face an inferiority complex. But the children who were rejected (unwanted children), constantly humiliated, insulted and simply said that they will not achieve anything, in the future they will feel deprived.

But not everything is as bad as you might think. The fact is that in some cases, awareness of their inferiority can be a decisive factor in order to achieve greater. Remember at least the ancient Greek philosopher anda successful speaker of Diogenes. He was able to overcome his own inferiority complex and become what he wanted to be. If you do not feel the strength to achieve more, then at the moment start with the struggle with the complex.

So, how to get rid of the inferiority complex? To begin with, try not to do such things:

• underestimate yourself;


• create an ideal and compare yourself with it;


• compare yourself with more successful people;


• remember your parents' opinion of you;


• Underestimate what you have at the moment.

Instead of all this, try to think about more good things. Replace all your usual thoughts and actions with this:

• set small goals and implement them;


• ask friends and relatives how they are good at doing things that you can not do;


• appreciate what you already have;


• communicate more with relatives, colleagues and friends;


• do not be afraid of competition and competition;


• do not lose heart and tune into positive thinking;


• believe in yourself;


• talk to a good psychologist.