Teacher / Student Relationship

Children, as a rule, are reluctant to join the learning process, if at least one aspect of the learning process is absent. What to do, if your child from the first days of visiting the school suddenly began to look for any reasons to turn away from the lessons? First of all, try to talk with the student without unnecessary emotions to find out why he lost interest in studying. There may be several reasons for this. Let's consider some of them:

• the child has a difficult relationship with the teacher;


• the child does not get used to the peer group;


• some objects are beyond the power of your child;


• interest in the learning process is absent due to the lack of readiness for independence and responsibility.

The first point is the most important indicator of a child's productivity in the educational process. As is known, the teacher lays the basic formulas in the consciousness of the "little man". Thanks to these formulas, the child goes to the second level of development - the analysis of acquired knowledge and their use in practice. The relationship of a teacher and a student, as a rule, should not displace the influence of parents on the formation of the child's psychology. Nevertheless, do not forget: parents should monitor the learning process and be in constant contact with the teacher. This in no way implies control and mistrust of the child, just a teacher should be respected in the families of his pupils.

The teacher should not divide the disciples into good and bad, smart and stupid. Such a classification often leads to the fact that excellent people become outcasts, dvoechniki - leaders, and horoshisty - gray mass. Dominant personalities in the children's collective, likerule, act according to the laws of the street - whoever is stronger, is right. Hence there are not only psychological conflicts, but also physical disassembly, which rarely end in a positive and painless manner.

A professional teacher should in time feel the growing conflict among students and try to solve it without introducing the parents, the head teacher and the director. The relationship between teacher and student is built on trust, therefore the teacher should not promise hiswards examination of the conflict in an individual order, and after making public all the nuances of the incident. If there is a loss of trust between the student and the teacher, a systematic violation of discipline is possible, because the child no longer has respect for his mentor.

The teacher should not be afraid to praise the students forevaluation. Praise acts on the child, like water on a fading flower. But here, too, you have to be careful. Excessive praise can cause laziness and indifference to other subjects in which the student succeeds not so successfully. A good teacher can awaken the student's interest in the whole educational process at once. Relations between the teacher and the student become a dialogue only in the event that, if each participant of the dialogue willingly supportsconversation. It should be remembered that the teacher should not build this dialogue exclusively with one student. The acquisition of contact with the entire children's collective is a vocation that is valued by children unconditionally.

The relationship between the teacher and the student must be strong, but do not forget about a reasonable distance. An individual approach to each child is a talent that not every worker in the training sphere is endowed with. But here, too, do not overdo it. Children are very sensitive to attention, so from the first days it becomes clear - who for the teacher falls into the rank of pets, and who remains unnoticed. This is fine, if the teacher prompts, allows you to contact him during the lesson and patiently answers questions.

The child encodes in the memory is a positive image of the teacher, so he is not afraid to be active in the classroom and feels free to change. But we are all people, and we are not unhappy with the bad mood. It happens that the teacher just changed the intonation, answering a question. To the child she seemed rude or indifferent, which introduces him into confusion. "Teacher does not like me," your child will say, coming home, throwing the briefcase to the floor. And then parents already have to study the scheme of relations between the teacher and the student, in order to exclude the conflict or its first callsign.

Do not be afraid to talk with your child about the teacher and do not avoid communication with the teacher. Remember that a school is a place where a person is formed from your child. If you care about what kind of person your child will grow up, try to keep abreast of all the events that happen to him at school, but again - do not oversee every step he takes. Allow the child to feel independent and organized.

It's nice when an adult already remembers his first teacher as a wonderful mentor who shaped his worldview, useful to him on the way to a successful future. The relationship of the teacher and the student is the first global contact in the life of each person, which determines his ability to find his place in life and adapt to any social conditions.