How to force a child to do anything against his will?
On what only tricks parents do not go tomake your child do what is needed, not what he wants! Promises, threats, gifts or punishments - these methods are familiar to everyone, but everyone also knows that sooner or later all this ceases to function, and even a ton of chocolates will not entice a child into a kindergarten or hospital. How can you get a child to do anything against his will?
In fact, the question is initially wrong. A child can not be forced! Even an adult does not feel like doing it.an extremely important and useful thing, if forced. Therefore, today the Country of Councils does not offer you "10 ways to make a child obey". Today we will study with you rightfully motivate your child.
For starters, let's look at the causes of child disobedience. You probably noticed that the child does not wantdo something for a reason. Indeed, often childish disobedience - this is the usual whims, but the reluctance to eat porridge can be caused by a lowered appetite, and hysterics - the inability of the child to cope with their emotions.
Let's consider some typical situations.
The situation is the first: "I do not want porridge!". In detail such a situation has already been consideredThe country councils in the article "If the child is capricious at dinner." Indeed, during breakfasts, lunches and dinners, real battles can unfold. Mom dances around the baby: "A spoon - for dad, a spoon - for my mother ...", the child stubbornly shakes his head, throws a spoon ...
How to awaken the baby's appetite? It is useless to explain to a preschool child whyhe needs to eat tasteless fresh carrots, not sweet cakes or delicious chips. Therefore, it is better that these products are not even in the house - there is no benefit from them.
It is possible to interest the child with an appetizing externalkind of cooked food, an interesting fairy tale. Do you remember how in the Soviet film the hero of Eugene Leonov suggested his wards to go on a space trip? Why do not you take advantage of the good old reception?
The second situation: "I do not want to sleep!". You can learn more about this situation fromarticle "If the baby refuses to sleep?". No less popular field for battles is the bed. Parents tenderly say to the kid: "Baiu-bai, fall asleep baby ...", and he kicks and screams in his own voice. Familiar? Then try not to force the child to sleep, but to help him or her to want to fall asleep.
For example, you can read to the child at night a quiet tale, to sing a lullaby. Evening bathing will also help to preparethe child to sleep. Helps children quickly fall asleep and waiting for some interesting event. You can tell the baby that the sooner he falls asleep, the faster it will come tomorrow and he will meet with friends in the kindergarten, will play and have fun.
Of course, nightly active games, excessive excitement of a child, do not contribute to a calm departure to sleep.
The situation is third: "I will not go to the kindergarten!". Often parents simply fall into despair: it's high time to go to work, and the kid almost rolls into hysterics and flatly refuses to go to kindergarten. If the child has just entered the kindergarten, then, of course, he needs an adaptation period and can not be scolded for not being accustomed to do without a mother.
Help in this situation can timely preparation of the baby to the kindergarten. In advance it is necessary to train the child to serve himself, to communicate with other children, to obey the elders.
The child may refuse to go to the kindergarten, because he simply does not like it. It is advisable to try to find out from the child thatcauses his concern. You can also consult with the kindergarten teacher, find out how the child behaves there. Often happens, that the capricious and not too playful at home the kid in the kindergarten behaves quietly and modestly.
Than to interest the child? In the kindergarten, the kid can find a lot of exciting activities for himself. So tell him how interesting it is to play with toys, with other children, to run on the street.
In the article "How to help a child learn in the kindergarten?" The country councils in detail discusses the adaptation of the child in a preschool institution.
There are a lot of situations like the ones described, because every child at least once refused toonly to eat or sleep, but also to dress, wash, clean toys, and just obey. In response to the persuasions of parents, a child can throw a tantrum or even show aggression.
Raising a child is a huge work, requiringparents of patience, care and, of course, love. Do not try to force the child to do something against his will, try to find a "key" to his behavior - and you can succeed!
