How to overcome self-doubt
Diffidence prevents us from fully realizing our own potential. Many people could achieve much more in life if they were more confident in their abilities. How to get rid of self-doubt?
To begin with, where did your self-doubt. Most likely, in the past you survived the situation,shaking your confidence in your abilities. Perhaps you have not coped with some important thing for you. Often the cause of self-doubt becomes negative criticism or even simply non-recognition of your merits. Doing something good, a person expects gratitude, recognition. If his achievements are perceived as something self-evident, he may think that he is coping badly.
So, we decided where your legs grow fromself-doubt? Now you can start to fight it. If your self-doubt is a consequence of a fiasco (or what you consider a fiasco), it is important to understand: never makes a mistake only one who does nothing. Yes, failures are unpleasant, but they must be perceived first of all as a source of experience. One failure is not a reason to stop trying. Do you think everyone always gets it the first time?
It is worth remembering that great victories are rarely given to people at once, the path to them consists of a series of small achievements. Do not try to jump immediately above your head, raise the bar of your requirements to yourself gradually. Each new small achievement will begradually raise your self-confidence. However, do not do only what goes well with you: so you will not grow and develop. Do not be afraid to try something new.
If self-doubt is caused by negative criticism, you need to accept it as a reality that you will not always be praised. You can not like everyone. The problem is most likely not in negative criticismas such, but in your dependence on someone else's opinion. If you take to heart the opinion of every person who meets your life's path, you can never cope with self-doubt.
Therefore, it is very important to outline the circle of people,whose opinion you really care about, and listen only to their opinion. And remember that no person can be competent in all areas. Therefore, for example, in professional matters, it makes sense to listen to the opinion of a superior or an experienced colleague, in personal matters - to rely on a mother or a friend, and so on. No man should be absolute authority for you.
Also worth share the assessment of you as a person and criticism of your actions and achievements. If you were told that you did not do well with something, this does not mean that you are treated poorly as a person. Do not think that one of your faults will cause others to put a cross on you, and look at things easier.
To overcome self-doubt, one must remember that one is not a warrior in the field. Relying on other people - not a sign of weakness, surrounded by like-minded people, feels much more confident. Try to surround yourself with people whoshare your interests and views on life. Communication with such people helps to feel more confident, and gradually this confidence will extend to any environment.
And remember: no one is perfect. Someone succeeds in one, someone in another, each has its own strengths and weaknesses. Do not let your weaknesses shake your self-confidence, do not get hung up on them. Of course, this does not relieve you of the need to work on yourself, just do not take failure too much to heart, and you will definitely succeed!